One of the hardest parts of parenting is holding two truths at the same time. Your child's feelings are important. And your child's feelings do not get to decide their behavior. This is an AND, not an either-or. For many parents, this is a new idea. We worry that if we do not give feelings full control, we are dismissing them. But in reality, teaching this distinction is one of the most important skills we can give our children. Understanding the Difference Between Feelings a

Big feelings are a normal part of childhood. Frustration, sadness, anger, excitement, disappointment. For many children, emotions show up quickly and intensely, often before they have the skills to explain what is happening inside. When that happens, behavior becomes communication. Crying, yelling, shutting down, or refusing are not signs that a child is being difficult. They are signs that something feels hard in that moment. Understanding starts with noticing that connectio